Is Being Gay a Choice??
Is homosexuality learned behavior? Nobody "taught" me to be straight. Nobody taught me to love a certain, green-eyed, blonde woman. My dad liked skinny brunettes. My mom liked my dad. Sexual attraction is instinctive throught the species. Frankly, any and all species that mate have this going for them. I have been attracted to women of a very different type than not only my father, but my brother as well. The biology is the same, of course, but as they say, God is in the details.Given the pain and suffering that people go through as they are coming out, is this really a choice? Yes, many, many people willingly choose to do self-destructive things. Some of that is instinctive, too. The only choice that any of us have sexually, though, is whether or not to act upon our impulses (check the inane "cheaters" thread here for a quick insight there). I cannot say that since I married my-yes, female- wife 16 years back, that I have never seen another women that caught my interest; I'm married, not dead. That interest was instinctive. However, as I made some pretty deep promises to her (and to Him) in re being true to her, I CHOSE not to act on my impules. That's the end of choice.
It cannot be easy to be gay. People to whom you were close, suddenly act as if you have the Plague. family abandon you. The sexual act itself (for men, anyway) is kinda gross and has to hurt a lot. Anybody who's ever had/suffered a prostate exam knows this. Do you really think that they've chosen this? For the sake of argument, let's say that people wake up, decide that a hetero relationship isn't fun anymore, and they're going to try this gay thing for a while. If that mythical choice makes them happy, and nobody is being harmed, what's it to you? Were someone to try and tell me that I was wrong for the choices that I made viz my wife, and that I MUST do things their way, I'd probably tell them to go to hell. I would hope that were you in a similar scenario, you'd respond likewise. Who we love is our business and our business alone (or paired, I guess).
Most gay people live within a mutually satisfying relationship, as do most heterosexuals ("get it straight!" Great pun that). Within both camps there are persons who seek to abuse others. the abuse can be both homo and heterosexual in nature. But if two people actually do love each other, and all are adults and happy with the relationship, is it really our business? Not that long ago, it was "wrong" to be part of an interracial affair (I bet that black and white and gay back then was a hanging offense even in the Northeast). I like to think that we've learned a little since then.
By the way, pedophilia is not the same as homosexuality, and you would do well to avoid any attempt to connect the two. Not all pedophiles prey on members of their own sex. Many do, yes. However, I trust that you do know that pedophilia, like all other forms of rape/sexual assault are not about love or even amorous attraction. Instead, these evils are about dominance and control. They may be a form of mental disease, but I'm not sympathetic.
2000 years ago, of course, we were taught to "Love each other as He has loved us." I guess that for some this only applies to those who act in the same manner as ourselves, huh? Well, judge if you must, just be prepared for your own verdict, or do you have some nice stones already in place?
- The following post is inpeirsd by the request at problogger.net for articles surounding the theme, Blogging Goals. In last weeks episode, I used Frank Lloyd Wright's quotes as inspiration on the topic effective blogging.' This week, I'll use another one of his quotes to start into the topic blogging goals' where I will argue that an important goal for any blogger is to avoid automation which ensures originality and prevents the loss of precious blogging mojo'.
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